Note: this article was written around 2017 on my old blog. I share with you again.
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I've been meaning to write this post for quite some time. At the present time, it can be said that it is a disease depression My life has been much better than it was during high school and college. Today I share with you how I overcame my depression. Due to my limited age, this article may not be applicable to everyone. If anyone finds it useful, read it. Hope it will be useful to someone.
I have experienced depression many times due to many problems such as family, friends, love. I also studied abroad alone for 4 years. There was also a year in the monkey city, the weather was cold, basically sad. Sometimes I just isolate myself from the people around me, don't play with anyone, or go online to write articles on autism (like this one). When he was heavy, he would bang his chair on the table, cry for several weeks continuously, completely isolated from the outside world, his heart aching continuously, all day long he just wanted to sleep, didn't want to eat, didn't want to wake up, wanted to commit suicide, his head pain, doing many crazy things like lighting candles and sitting in a dark room until too tired, then sleep, then wake up and repeat. In the long run, it is easy to change personality, easily change emotions, easy to be narcissistic, easy to be sad.
And now, it's been a year and a half since the last time I had severe autism. For the past one and a half years, I've lived quite peacefully, still as crazy as I am, but mad in a positive way, getting along with people, less emotional changes, calmer, a lot happier. . So what did I do to get through those difficult times?
1) Meditation
Not without a reason I choose Meditation is number one on my list. Zen has been with me for four years now, from the days I only knew how to meditate and until now, I have studied to meditate properly. Once upon a time, my freshman year of college broke up with my girlfriend, I had the worst depression in my youth. The consequences remained until recently, four years. Only after going up the mountain in Austria to study Vipassana meditation for 10 days did I get rid of most of the sequelae of that time. Before that it was just a temporary relief.
When I first broke up with my girlfriend, then under financial pressure, and then alone due to studying abroad, I almost collapsed (the symptoms I described above were severe depression). Then by chance I went online to find about meditation. At that time, I simply played meditation music on Youtube and breathed in and out. After that, I also bought candles for meditation. If I hadn't meditated at that time, I would have been mentally ill. Then fortunately thanks to meditation, I calmed down, 3 months after the collapse, I "became" one of the most "excellent" students of the course, and then I also had enough points to apply for another school, moved to another city to live, not in that damn city anymore.
Meditation has no magic, no religion. Meditation is simply to help you reduce your thoughts and balance out your disturbed emotions. Especially when you are depressed, sad, your mind and emotions will be tortured by thousands of thoughts, questions, doubts, doubts, pain every day. If you are dragged along, or drowned in those sad waves, you will sooner or later be knocked down due to exhaustion, leading to other decisions and actions that are not wise. So when you are caught in the whirlpool of sadness or negative, dark thoughts, you need to be as calm as possible. Meditation will help you a lot in that. And meditation is very simple. You can learn more about meditation online, but I recommend apps like Calm nice Headspace of foreign countries. I see in Vietnam the information about meditation is messed up, and misunderstood a lot and then there's nothing else... Meditation is very simple, just watch the breath, don't follow complicated meditations. Good does not see, sometimes even more crazy.
Besides, I've learned Vipassana Meditation 3 10-day courses. Vipassana meditation is available all over the world (English is bilingual with Native language, so you don't have to worry). Personally, I took 1 course in Austria (Bilingual English with Austrian), and 1 course at Hong Trung Son Pagoda, Nam Cat Tien (Vietnamese). If you have time, you should try it out.
2) Don't let what's around remind you of a sad story
The day I fell into a major depression, the very next day, I was calm enough to do the one thing I always do when I'm sad, which is to rearrange the furniture in the room to another location, and throw or hide it. everything that can remind you of a sad story, or someone who made you sad. Because when depression occurs, the surrounding scenery or the objects around will be an anchor point in your brain so deep that you cannot imagine. So you must try to anchor as much as you can so that in the days that follow, the heavy sad anchors do not drag you down into the abyss.
When I was depressed, I was studying abroad in a crazy city, so sad, but I didn't get along with the people there anymore. So when I was depressed, I made a big decision, which is that I will do everything to change to another school, to another school, to study again, as long as I don't stay here because I will I'm slowly dying here with my current depression. One thing though is that at that time I studied in a college, I wanted to transfer to a university, at a higher level because I thought I would meet people who would suit me better. But to transfer to a higher school, it's very difficult for me because my grades have to be high and I have to be good to transfer. But in the 1st semester, I studied very boring, low grades. I was quite stuck at that time, I didn't know how to move, but I decided not to stay here.
How coincidentally in the boring days of life, I go to Youtube to find motivational videos, then I can watch the Video Steve Job's Commencement at Stanford, I always remember the sentence "You can't connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect the dots looking backward", which means you can't connect the pieces in your life by looking ahead, but you can only connect the pieces by looking back at your life. After watching the video, I was determined to still have water to slap, telling myself that my body is already very weak right now (it was after I cried for 2 weeks straight, locked myself in my room), but still Any piece of strength will drag to the end. I decided to study hard, and earn good grades to apply to change schools. It's miraculous that the strength from somewhere helped me to work hard, stay calm, and determined to get very good grades in term 2. Three months later, as mentioned above, I succeeded on the edge of the abyss. when the application to apply for the new school is accepted. I'm like a dead person returning by some miracle.
A month later, I moved to a new city and a new school. Honestly, at that time, I felt like I was reborn into a new life to do it again. Although the sequelae of the depression at that time were still very severe, for me at that time, it was an opportunity I was given to start over.
So, even at the most difficult times, try to get the last pieces of strength in your body and try to get out of the deep hole so as not to dig deeper. Just pull out and you will find a little more hope to do again. And try to minimize the surrounding scenes, objects or memories that remind you of the source of sadness/depression.
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